Most have fallen for that Prince Charming who swept us off our feet. Disney created such a fantasy of a princess being rescued from her troubles, charmed, and living happily ever after. What about the scenes that were cut short. The scenes in which we didn’t see. Did he catch her when he swept her off her feet? Or, Did he let her fall? I’ll elaborate more.
Did Prince Charming know the pain his princess suffered within her time of being locked away in a castle, abused by her step mom and siblings, or sent away to live in an undisclosed forest? Did Prince Charming know that she may have dealt and still deal with anxiety, low self esteem, depression, suicidal thoughts, and several other emotional and psychological issues? Did he catch her when he swept her off her feet? Or, Did he let her fall?
Did Prince Charming love her beyond her outer beauty and desire to heal her with his words, hands, soul, as a ministry? Did he listen to hear cry, wipe her tears, and hold her? Did he love her or did he just sweep her off her feet? We know that she fell in love with him, because he rescued her from her problems? Did he catch her when he swept her off her feet? Or, Did he let her fall?
What I’ve come to realize through observations and experiences is that this particular Prince Charming saw a woman in distress, and wanted to rescue her. Not because he loved her, but that he wanted to save her. The princess fell in love with her hero. He swept her off her feet, but could not handle her psychological state. He let her fall. He didn’t love her. She was willing to give Prince Charming her all because he saved her. Prince Charming enjoyed the Princess’s love making, sacrificial time and attention, but he could not love her through her pain. Prince Charming was selfish. He let her fall. He didn’t uphold her in her times of anxiety and fear bought on by her past. He couldn’t deal with her emotions, because he was disconnected from her feelings. He was selfish. The princess continued to fulfil Prince Charming’s needs because she loved him. This isn’t living happily ever after.
Many of us are or was in relationships similar to this short story, and fell in love with a man or woman who CHARMED us and swept us off of our feet. Some of us are still getting up after being swept off of feet due our Prince not catching us. Talking about a TRUST fall! It hurt to hit rock bottom after one takes a chance on love. What I’ve learned is that our Prince Charming, the one I’m describing in particular, can help us find ourselves while we are still on the ground (wounded). Prince Charming may have been the very thing we needed in order to transition into our purpose. Life happens for US not to US.
I believe that this particular Prince comes to rescue us and we fall in love and it’s okay. If we saw Prince Charming as the vehicle that God chose to help us transition, we would recover faster.
We would forgive ourselves faster, let go of the past, and thrive. Elizabeth Gilbert says it best in her book, “Eat, Pray, and Love”
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…”
I couldn’t have said it better! Don’t get down in life because Prince Charming didn’t catch you. Clearly it wasn’t his job to. You’ve tried faith, believing, changing your ways, trusting, and things just did not work out, FORGIVE YOURSELF! Thank God for what he’s shown you about yourself, make the changes, and please don’t give up on TRUE LOVE! It’s out there waiting to catch you when, not if, but when you fall. True love NEVER gives up on you, because God is LOVE and he never gives up on any of us!